Five fashion things you don’t need to worry about

If you read a lot of fashion magazines or blogs, it can be easy to get swept up in some of the trends and ideas they promote: the “fashion things”, as we call them. It’s most often a subconscious thing: we know you’re all far too smart to be sitting there thinking, “Oh, look, this was in a magazine: I better do it!” but sometimes these things creep up on you, and before you know it, you’re thinking you’re the only person alive who doesn’t go out bare-legged in the snow, or take the time to co-ordinate your manicure with your outfit every day, and that this must be the normal, totally unremarkable way to live and dress.

Well, get this: it isn’t. Or not for everyone, anyway. We’re in no way suggesting that doing any of these things makes you “weird”, or turns you into a fashion criminal: we’re just saying that many of the things fashion bloggers and magazines tend to fixate on and worry about are things that you really don’t need to worry about. Here are just a few of them…

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You don’t need to be good at nail art, or change your manicure with your outfit

If you use Pinterest or Instagram, you’re probably used to seeing lots of photos of people’s hands (normally clutching a bottle of nail polish), elaborately painted with the most fantastic and intricate designs imaginable. And tomorrow they’ll have a new design to show you, too. Where do these people find the time to perform fiddly nail art on themselves every day? We have no idea. What we DO know is that if you don’t have the time to spend hours every week quite literally watching paint dry, you don’t have to. (And if you DO, then good for you: at least it gives the rest of us something to admire!) As long as your nails are clean and healthy, they’ll do just fine.

You don’t need to mix patterns

Fashion bloggers love to mix patterns: stripes with polka dots, florals with animal prints, checks with all of the above… it’s a case of “anything goes”, basically. Pattern mixing CAN work, of course, if it’s done right. And it CAN simply make the person doing it look like they got dressed in the dark. It’s the kind of look, in other words, that takes a lot of thought, and honestly, getting dressed doesn’t have to be that hard… does it?

You don’t need to “remix”

They call it “remixing”, we call it “wearing your clothes more than once”. And, OK, most of us DO need to wear our clothes more than once: it’s just a fact of life. What we DON’T need to do, however, is create a whole new look from them each and every time. It’s a “fashion thing” right now to fret about the sin that is “outfit repeating”, and to worry endlessly about making each outfit different from the last. We’ll let you into a secret, though: unless the outfit in question is very unusual/memorable, no one but you will even notice that you’ve worn it before. We promise you. Doesn’t it seem a shame to come up with an amazing outfit, and then never wear it again, for fear of “repeating”? We think so. That’s why we just don’t worry about it.

You don’t need to shop like it’s a competition

The language of fashion blogging often makes shopping sound a lot like a contact sport. “I finally managed to snag that last item!” people will say. Or “It took me forever, but I tracked it down!” There’s absolutely nothing wrong with taking the time to find that perfect item: we’ve done it ourselves, and have even written posts with the aim of helping other people to do it too, so trust us: we are no strangers to the thrill of the “hunt”. It’s important to ask yourself, however, whether you REALLY need that “must have” item, or whether you’re just being swept along on the wave of consumerism that ensues whenever something becomes super-popular. Even if you think you’re immune to trends, sometimes over-expose to certain items can lend them an allure that would otherwise have been absent (And sometimes it can do the exact opposite, of course…) so if you want to embark on a manhunt for that perfect pair of shoes, we promise not to judge you – as long as it’s because you genuinely love them, and not just because they’re the latest “fashion thing”.

You don’t have to change your look if you don’t want to

If the fashion media are to be believed, everyone is spending a lot of time worrying about “changing things up”, and making sure their style is always evolving. (This is distinct from “remixing”, which simply involves wearing different combinations of the same items…) Again, there’s nothing wrong with this: a change is a good as a rest (or so we’re told), and it’s a good idea to take a step back every once and while and ask yourself if the styles that suited you two, five or ten years ago are still working for you NOW, if you do that, and you decide that actually, you’re pretty happy with your look, thanks very much, there’s absolutely no need to worry about changing it. You don’t have to be “on trend”, you don’t have to be different just for the sake of it, and you really don’t have to worry about making sure your style is appropriately “evolved”.

 What did we forget? Which fashion things do you think aren’t worth worrying about?

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6 Comments

  • June 20, 2013

    Najse

    You don’t have to show the bodyparts that, according to the fashion magazines, are “in style”.
    I have read noumerous articles where it it stated that it is “in” to show legs, or boobs or stomach or the back. I mean, I don’t see how a bodypart can be “in” as you carry all the different parts around all the time. And furthermore, if your arms look great and your legs don’t, it would be quite silly to display your legs instead of the arms just because legs are in style.

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    • June 20, 2013

      Elle

      Body parts in style???

      They must be in partnership with, or paid by, the “diet” industry, ugh. (And skin-care [no bacne!] and others…)

      Most of us know our “happy” parts … and then “show” more, in a comfy way, when it’s hot. Anything else sounds nutty for me – and I am nutty!

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  • June 20, 2013

    naiadknight

    You don’t hafta follow that fashion trend of the moment. Even if it is the hot thing, I’ll never be caught dead in a mullet hem, exposed zipper, or any number of things.

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  • June 20, 2013

    Spiky

    It’s ok not to wear heels all the freaking time!

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  • June 20, 2013

    andrea

    Its ok to stick with the styles that suit your body shape and accessorise the fashion bits. But if we’re going talk about what magazines say, where shall we start? According to them I’m too fat, too thin, eat the wrong food, drink the wrong drink, have the wrong furniture, curtains and kitchen. I married the wrong man, bought my kids up wrong and should/shouldnt do a thousand and one other things. I don’t buy them 🙂

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  • June 25, 2013

    Claudia

    Two things in my opinion:

    It is ok not to be edgy, but just pretty or simple. I’m not good at all at “… adding something to my outfit that’s intentionally off”. Coco Chanel said that simplicity is not the same as poverty, and I would add that simplicity is not the same as plainness.

    It is ok not to buy that latest “in” polish by Chanel if you find a discounter brand with a similar colour. I dare you to distinguish between nail polish (or lipstick) brands once they are applied. Of course, there are lousy nail polishes out there which unmix and pull strings, but also very good ones at bargain prices. Too much depends on the state of the decorated body part, the skill at applying it and the care with which you use and store your stuff.

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