English school asks parents not to wear pyjamas for the school run

Jumpin’ Jammerz: Not for the school run


Looks like Tesco isn’t the only place where pyjamas-as-daywear is frowned upon: this week, the headteacher of a school in England sent out letters to parents, asking them if it would be too much trouble to actually get dressed before dropping off or collecting their children from school. Apparently some of the parents were even attending school events in their PJs, and turning up mid-afternoon, still in their nightwear, according to BBC News.

What does everyone think about this?

We’re absolutely astounded by it. Obviously we knew people were wearing their pyjamas in public – that’s been going on for a long time now, much to our dismay. But to wear them to collect your kids from school? Have these people no shame? Do they not remember what it was like to be at school? Because the thing is, kids are cruel. They’re particularly cruel at primary school age, when absolutely anything can become the object of ridicule. You remember how embarrassing your parents could be at that age, don’t you? Can you even imagine how embarrassed you’d have been if they’d rocked up at the school gate clad only in a pair of PJs and a dressing gown? Because we can.

Now, we’re in now way advocating that parents should completely change their style and/or their personality in order to make sure their kids don’t get teased. Quite apart from being unfair on the parents, it probably wouldn’t even have the desired effect. Is it too much to ask that people at least put on some clothes before leaving the house, though? Apparently it is. And we have no idea why. If the people who are so determined to wear pyjamas put even half the energy into pulling on some clothes that they put into defending their right to wear pyjamas in the street, there would be no issue. And they’d preserve some small amount of dignity, too. It must be hard to be taken seriously by your child’s teacher when you’re wearing the same clothes you slept, in, after all.

What’s more, many of the pyjama brigade ARE actually going to a lot of effort in their bid to wear pyjamas. In this story, we hear from a mother who wears leggings over her pyjamas, in a bid to appease the school. Leggings over pyjamas? How is that even comfortable? And how is it easier than just wearing leggings in the first place?

“Hello, I’m here to pick up my little boy…”

We don’t know. Perhaps our own horror over the idea of being out in public in our PJs is clouding our vision over this issue. We don’t know about you, but when we get out of bed in the morning, we look and feel a bit… icky. We’re creased, dishevelled, untidy… we need a shower and a coffee to start to feel human, and the idea of having that shower and then jumping right back into the same dishevelled nightclothes we just got out of, in order to go out in public is the stuff of nightmares. (Literally. We’ve actually had nightmares about being out in our PJs.) Isn’t it just as easy to put on clothes as it is to put on pyjamas?

Does it all depend on the pyjamas? Do you think pyjamas are a totally acceptable form of dress? Tell us!

15 Comments

  • May 25, 2011

    Caroline

    My step-sister once demanded to be collected from a school disco with the proviso “Do NOT embarrass me by showing up in your painting clothes – get changed first.” (My step-mum was decorating at the time, and tended to wear paint spattered shirts and jeans for the task.) To teach her a lesson, my step-mum showed up, not in her painting clothes, but DRESSED AS A GIANT BUNNY! She HOPPED into the hall and approached my sister’s boyfriend’s dad with the immortal phrase, “What’s up, Doc? I’m Jenny’s Mum, Bugs.”

    The teasnig was unbearable, but we reckon still better than pajamas would provoke!

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    • May 25, 2011

      The Fashion Police

      OMG! I know it’s wrong, but I laughed so much at that! I can remember trying to get my parents to wait around the corner when they were collecting me from places – children are so awful to their parents!

      (Thanks again for the link to this, by the way!)

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    • May 25, 2011

      Selina

      Caroline that is the best story ever, it had me laughing out loud. I’ve just read your comment out to my daughter as proof that I am NOT the most embarrassing mother ever.

      PS: I wore PJs to pick up my daughter once, but I was sick, had only just managed to roll out of bed in time and knew I wouldn’t actually have to get out of the car. Is that ok?

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      • May 25, 2011

        Caroline

        I reckon even the Fashion Police would let you off with a warning for that one Selina. 🙂

        I forgot to mention that my little brother was also in the car, also dressed as a bunny, didn’t I? I must dig out those photos…

        My sister never demanded anything in that tone again, so the lesson obviously landed!

        (And you’re welcome, A!)

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  • May 25, 2011

    Lu

    Even if your Arthur Dent or Jeffrey Lebowski (aka the Dude), it is not ok to show up in PJs in public.

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  • May 25, 2011

    Moni

    I can totally understand that some people don’t bother with “daywear” on days when they will not leave their apartments anyway. (I couldn’t stay in my pyjamas all day long even then, but maybe it’s just me…)
    I can also understand when they drive their children to school in PJs and a bathrobe on the rare occasion that they totally overslept. As long as they don’t leave the car it’s fine.
    I can even understand that they don’t want to “dress up” for only one short walk to the baker on the corner and then back home. (Although I wouldn’t do that either.)

    But I CANNOT understand people wearing pyjamas by choice when going out in public, let alone at social events. And if I were a teacher and had parents come to school events in their nightwear, I would intervene, too. (Just as I’m sure these parents would if the teacher came to school in pyjamas to teach the children.)
    It’s your personal decision what you do and wear at home, but if you go out for some reason, then dress accordingly. It’s a matter of simple common courtesy.

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  • May 25, 2011

    Zoe

    The ONLY time when I’ll wear pajamas outside is when I am really sick and need to pick up my prescription from Rite-Aid. And even then it’s sweats with a tee-shirt, not fully recognizable pajamas.

    I’m in college and it drives me crazy when kids show up to class in clothes they look like they’ve slept in. And our college doesn’t have housing so you know they didn’t just get out of bed. I just feel like screaming at them “this is a formal setting! One day you will need recommendations from your professors! Put on some real pants!”

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  • May 26, 2011

    Alannah

    Pyjamas are only daywear if you are staying home. No exceptions. Even if you are sick, you can probably manage to step into some jeans and pull on a sweater.

    A girl I went to elementary school with is a Jumpin’ Jammerz model. She had a baby at 15 and dropped out of high school. Classy.

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  • May 26, 2011

    Chloe

    I can’t leave the house without showering so going out in what I’d slept in would kill me! I even shower before going to the gym which my boyfriend laughs at me for.

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  • May 26, 2011

    Leanne

    I don’t remember seeing any parents wearing pyjamas to take their kids to school when I was at school. It must be a new phenomenon? And as for wearing leggings over pyjama bottoms.. What’s the point in that??

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    • October 4, 2012

      Claudia

      I think it’s the inner three-year-old (“I’m NOT gonna go dressed and you can’t make me!!!”) acting out.

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  • June 27, 2011

    ronke

    What I am wondering is how these parents would feel if teachers, headmistresses, shop staff etc showed up at work in the PJs!

    Really, how many minutes does it take to pull on a tshirt and jeans? seriously?
    Do these parents go back into their pyjamas after having a shower or they dont bother to have showers at all?
    Honestly its a form of madness and I’m glad they are being called to order!

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    • February 14, 2012

      Victor Brunswick

      If they’re thick enough to think jammies are acceptable daywear/streetwear then they probably wouldn’t even notice!

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  • December 2, 2011

    Gunilla

    Hi i am from Sweden and want to say that One piece Jumpin suit is better than pyjamas. And you need more than one because they are soo comfortable and you really feel free. Try it and you will never leave it! Here we wearOne piece jumpin when we are going to shop and in shool and when we watch tv and so on. We shower too, but you need many jumpin 🙂

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    • October 4, 2012

      Claudia

      Free? As in “no waistband”? You might feel free, but they are so ugly and shapeless and you do not look as if you respect yourself. You don’t even notice it if you gain weight.

      My mother – now in her seventies – has sort of gravitated to an all-over-polar-fleece look. I understand the stuff is warm, easy to put on and easy to care for, but it is a cultural thing: Culture is caring for aesthetics even if they are, objectively speaking, unnecessary and superfluous. Even if they demand an extra effort that is not rewarded instantly. Now I would not want to live in a world in which it takes me two hours and the help of a servant to dress, but by dressing myself I express who I am. And I am not an all comfort, no effort type of person.

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