If you read a lot of fashion magazines or blogs, it can be easy to get swept up in some of the trends and ideas they promote: the “fashion things”, as we call them. It’s most often a subconscious thing: we know you’re all far too smart to be sitting there thinking, “Oh, look, this was in a magazine: I better do it!” but sometimes these things creep up on you, and before you know it, you’re thinking you’re the only person alive who doesn’t go out bare-legged in the snow, or take the time to co-ordinate your manicure with your outfit every day, and that this must be the normal, totally unremarkable way to live and dress.
Well, get this: it isn’t. Or not for everyone, anyway. We’re in no way suggesting that doing any of these things makes you “weird”, or turns you into a fashion criminal: we’re just saying that many of the things fashion bloggers and magazines tend to fixate on and worry about are things that you really don’t need to worry about. Here are just a few of them…
You don’t need to be good at nail art, or change your manicure with your outfit
If you use Pinterest or Instagram, you’re probably used to seeing lots of photos of people’s hands (normally clutching a bottle of nail polish), elaborately painted with the most fantastic and intricate designs imaginable. And tomorrow they’ll have a new design to show you, too. Where do these people find the time to perform fiddly nail art on themselves every day? We have no idea. What we DO know is that if you don’t have the time to spend hours every week quite literally watching paint dry, you don’t have to. (And if you DO, then good for you: at least it gives the rest of us something to admire!) As long as your nails are clean and healthy, they’ll do just fine.
You don’t need to mix patterns
Fashion bloggers love to mix patterns: stripes with polka dots, florals with animal prints, checks with all of the above… it’s a case of “anything goes”, basically. Pattern mixing CAN work, of course, if it’s done right. And it CAN simply make the person doing it look like they got dressed in the dark. It’s the kind of look, in other words, that takes a lot of thought, and honestly, getting dressed doesn’t have to be that hard… does it?
You don’t need to “remix”
They call it “remixing”, we call it “wearing your clothes more than once”. And, OK, most of us DO need to wear our clothes more than once: it’s just a fact of life. What we DON’T need to do, however, is create a whole new look from them each and every time. It’s a “fashion thing” right now to fret about the sin that is “outfit repeating”, and to worry endlessly about making each outfit different from the last. We’ll let you into a secret, though: unless the outfit in question is very unusual/memorable, no one but you will even notice that you’ve worn it before. We promise you. Doesn’t it seem a shame to come up with an amazing outfit, and then never wear it again, for fear of “repeating”? We think so. That’s why we just don’t worry about it.
You don’t need to shop like it’s a competition
The language of fashion blogging often makes shopping sound a lot like a contact sport. “I finally managed to snag that last item!” people will say. Or “It took me forever, but I tracked it down!” There’s absolutely nothing wrong with taking the time to find that perfect item: we’ve done it ourselves, and have even written posts with the aim of helping other people to do it too, so trust us: we are no strangers to the thrill of the “hunt”. It’s important to ask yourself, however, whether you REALLY need that “must have” item, or whether you’re just being swept along on the wave of consumerism that ensues whenever something becomes super-popular. Even if you think you’re immune to trends, sometimes over-expose to certain items can lend them an allure that would otherwise have been absent (And sometimes it can do the exact opposite, of course…) so if you want to embark on a manhunt for that perfect pair of shoes, we promise not to judge you – as long as it’s because you genuinely love them, and not just because they’re the latest “fashion thing”.
You don’t have to change your look if you don’t want to
If the fashion media are to be believed, everyone is spending a lot of time worrying about “changing things up”, and making sure their style is always evolving. (This is distinct from “remixing”, which simply involves wearing different combinations of the same items…) Again, there’s nothing wrong with this: a change is a good as a rest (or so we’re told), and it’s a good idea to take a step back every once and while and ask yourself if the styles that suited you two, five or ten years ago are still working for you NOW, if you do that, and you decide that actually, you’re pretty happy with your look, thanks very much, there’s absolutely no need to worry about changing it. You don’t have to be “on trend”, you don’t have to be different just for the sake of it, and you really don’t have to worry about making sure your style is appropriately “evolved”.
What did we forget? Which fashion things do you think aren’t worth worrying about?
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